4 ways to prevent your house being filled with kid junk

I like things and I like to see all my things, all the time. I love looking at chic, minimalist living spaces online but the idea of living in one leaves me cold. Seeing my stuff brings me joy, sorry Marie. I don't think my home looks bad, I'm not ready for an intervention or anything but it could be described as cluttered. That being said having a kid can take a home from cluttered to chaos and if you're sick of impaling yourself on stray Lego during your nocturnal loo run, here's some things you could try...

Borrow Toys can be for Christmas and not for life. Exchanging with friends or signing up to a local toy library is a great way to allow your little one to enjoy that must have plaything for the five minutes they'll be enamoured with it.

Buy cheap, buy twice When my son sees a charity shop he shouts, 'New toys!' You may see a three wheeled car but he sees brand new things to take home. Most of his favourite toys have come from local second hand shops and I always feel chuffed when he is running round the house with a fifty pence find. 

Ban adverts We always used to watch TV in the mornings, until one day Roscoe stood up and said, 'I want to play with it!' I followed his little finger to the screen where a happy, blonde child was delighting at a cartoon branded piece of plastic. From that point I thought, 'Oh, hell no!' We now watch DVDs or stream programmes and shopping trips remain pester free.

Hide it There's a cupboard in my kitchen filled with toys. It started with a little piano, it's plink, plink, plinking was haunting me in my dreams. I shoved it in the cupboard simply to protect my sanity and then I forgot about it. So did Roscoe. A few weeks later I was looking for some light bulbs and I found it, sad and alone. When I pulled it out it was like Christmas (without the hangover). Roscoe was so excited to see it again that he played with it for at least twenty four minutes. Now I regularly stow away things for a rainy day, just remember where you put them.

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Watching Your Weight: Obesity Related Health Issues To Avoid

We all know how carrying too much excess weight isn’t good for us, we’re constantly reminded by doctors and the media that we should shave off those excess pounds. But how much of an issue is being overweight and obese really? While most people will likely get away without developing health issues for a number of years, they’re likely to show up eventually and could be debilitating. Here are just a few of the reasons why you should aim to keep your weight within the normal range.

Type Two Diabetes One of the biggest dangers when you’re obese is insulin resistance- or type two diabetes. When you carry excess weight, there’s more pressure on the body to use insulin to control blood sugar. If you have a BMI over 22, you are eighty times more likely to develop type two diabetes which is shocking. You can help to treat type two diabetes by losing weight and cleaning up your diet, Natural remedies such as Synergy Extracts, terpenes in particular, have been shown to be useful in diabetics. Keeping your weight under control is the best way to prevent the illness.

Heart Issues Heart attacks and disease is the biggest killer in the western world. And that really is a shame since in most cases it can be prevented. Eating a healthy diet and exercising will keep your arteries free of plaque and keep your heart muscle strong and healthy. Focus on eating heart healthy foods, fruits and vegetables, high fiber foods and oily fish are all good choices. You will also want to work on reducing saturated fat in your diet and exercise at least three times a week.

Joints While as humans our joints are robust, they’re not invincible. Carrying too much weight puts pressure on hips and knees, and over time these can quite literally wear out, leaving them feeling extremely painful. Losing weight and also exercising to build up strength in the surrounding muscles and ligaments is extremely useful. Cycling is a good example, this is great for cardiovascular fitness but also strengthens the knees. And as it burns calories will help you lose weight too (along with a healthy diet)

Self Esteem Finally, as well as physical health issues, being overweight can also cause problems with mental health too. Unfortunately, we live in a world that’s biased towards slimmer individuals, flick through any beauty magazine, watch any movie or music video, and you will be bombarded with the ‘ideal’ kind of body. While it’s important to understand that often these ideals can be unrealistic, it’s hard enough even for those who are the correct weight at times. Being overweight or obese can be difficult in today’s judgemental world. Losing weight will not just benefit your health but your mental health too. You are likely to feel more confident in yourself and your body and wear the clothes that you want.

Are you on a weight loss journey, or have you overcome any health issues due to losing weight?

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The Costs of Parenting: What New Parents Should Know

If you and your partner are currently thinking about starting a family, there are probably many different things occupying your mind. However, don’t forget about those pesky financial matters. You need to know where the money is going to come from because parenting is not cheap. There are some things you should know before you go any further, and you can learn about them by reading on now.

You Might Have to Cover Costs You Managed to Avoid Before There are some things that every parent needs to be able to do. For example, you’re probably going to need to be able to drive if you want your job as a parent to be easier. That’s a big expense to cover if you’ve never been a driver in the past. There are things like cheap car insurance for first time drivers that you can take advantage of. But that’s just one example of the costs that will need to be covered.

Budgets Will be Essential You’re going to need to get into the habit of setting budgets for your household and your family spending. If you don’t set strict and realistic budgets, you will run into trouble sooner or later. That’s clearly not something you want to happen, so find out what a good budget looks like. It’s a habit that will serve you will over the years as you’re organising your family household and trying to stay financially secure.


Know What You’re Entitled To There are many social programs and benefits out there that you might be able to take advantage of as a new parent. These things can often help you to spend a little less money and ease that financial burden a little. That makes them more than worthwhile for someone like you. Don’t forget to explore all of these options in more detail and find out which of them you’re entitled to.

Balance Value with Durability When Starting to Buy Things for the Baby When you’re starting to buy things for the arrival of your baby, you might wonder whether you should go for budget items to keep costs down or spend more on durable items. It’s a balance that’s not always easy to get right. It’s something that you will have to decide for yourself. It’s often the case that you’ll end up spending more if you choose cheap products that can break easily.

The Pressure Doesn’t Lessen As They Get Older As your children get older, you might assume that the financial pressure lessens, but that’s not always the case. In fact, it’s never the case. There are always costs that need to be covered, and those costs can sometimes get bigger as your child grows. So, don’t fall into the trap of thinking that you will be able to get away with spending less when your child reaches a certain age; it doesn’t work that way.

Being a parent has always been pretty expensive, and that’s not something that’s about to change anytime soon. Unfortunately, that’s something you’ll just have to deal with if you want to start a family.

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Want The Perfect Proposal? Then Get Involved!

When it comes to proposals, most of us have a pretty fixed idea of how they're supposed to go down. The man gets down on one knee, and the woman is utterly shocked by this amazingly romantic gesture. And yet, most of us also want our proposal to be completely perfect. This presents a bit of a problem. After all, how are you supposed to make sure that you get the absolute perfect proposal when you have no idea what's going to happen or even when it's coming. Sure, it would be nice to be able to rely on your partner to give you the proposal that you've always dreamed of, but the reality is that is you want it to go down perfectly, then there's one option: get directly involved with it!

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Pick out your own ring Let's face it, aside from the fact that it means there will be wedding bells in the near future, the most important part of any proposal is the ring, which means that you really want to make sure that it's perfect. So why not pick it out with your partner? That way you can be sure that it's exactly what you want. If you're not sure what kind of ring is right for you, then check out these 77 Diamonds Celebrity Engagement Trends for a bit of inspiration. If you wanted to, you might even have a ring made especially for you so that you end up with something totally unique.

Set some ground rules The kind of proposal that you want is going to be incredibly personal to you and your partner. The last thing that you want is to end up getting the kind of proposal that might be perfect for someone else but is the worst thing imaginable for you. So why not talk to your partner about what kinds of things to avoid. If you're a private person, then you'll probably want to let them know that you don't want them to make a huge deal out of it with crowds and a lot of attention. Or perhaps that's exactly what you want! Either way, your partner isn't going to know unless you talk to them about it.

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Maybe even do it yourself! Of course, if you really wanted to mix things up, why not turn the tables and do the proposing yourself! After all, in the modern era, there's absolutely nothing wrong with a gender swapped proposal! That way you can give your partner the perfect proposal that they’ve always wanted instead!

Now there are a lot of people who will say that getting involved with your proposal will spoil some of the magic and surprise, but let's be honest, do you really want one of the most important decisions that you ever make to come as a surprise? Besides, even if you're aware of the fact that it's going to happen, that doesn't mean that you're always going to be exactly sure when and where!

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Learning to Love Again

Ever since they arrived, suddenly and painfully, I have loved my boobs. I know it's not very British to admit to liking something about yourself, particularly something about your body but since it was the only thing I admired about myself, I hope you'll give me a pass. 

I came of age in the 90's and boobs were in. Wonderbra was in it's heyday and no outfit was complete without an inch of cleavage. There wasn't a day that couldn't be saved without a a really good bra and did I love a bra. I had pink ones, red ones, polka dot ones, full cup ones, half cup ones, barely any cup but who cares it looks good ones. I remember my first bra fitting in the now defunct Alder's department store. I knew that I needed something more substantial than the crop tops that I had been sporting but my mouth fell open when the saleswoman told me I needed to wear a 32DD. Double D was the real deal, the kind of boobs sported by car models and aspiring actresses; I couldn't stop smiling. Even the saleswoman scolded me for looking a little too pleased with myself but I was like, whatever lady, I've got real boobs! 

Fast forward twenty years or so and I learnt that my breasts weren't just a cute accessory. I think it was about three in the morning when I was strapped into a hospital breast pump, willing myself to produce just a few millilitres of nourishment for my incubated baby that I realised, these are not mine anymore. I was lucky and my boobs came through for me. We both managed nearly a year of feeding my son. I can't say it was a particularly positive experience, it was just another administrative task in the job of motherhood. I was pretty much doing what I needed to do until the day I could have my boobs back. 

However, my breasts were not returned to me, someone elses were. The breasts returned to me were emptier, flatter, sadder. For six months I continued to wear maternity bras and went into mourning. The little tea dresses I had loved so much went into a vacuum sealed bag and the stacks of bras were discarded. And I probably would have continued in that way, were it not for a chambray shirt. 

I have wanted a chambray shirt for eons. It was one of those items that I would catch a woman wearing every few weeks and stick back at the top of my mental shopping list but for months it had eluded me. Then one lunchtime I was browsing through the sale rail at New Look when one jumped out at me. I grabbed it greedily and rushed to try it on. It fit perfectly, with the exception of looking a little bunchy around the chest. I thought, it would be perfect with an extra button open and no bra but I can't go without a bra. Then it occurred to me, she couldn't go without a bra, a girl with boobs that no longer existed, but this new reincarnation of me could. So I bought the shirt and I felt like the business in it. And I bought a bunch of other stuff that I wouldn't have considered before - lacy little bralets, strappy vests and tops with gaping backs, revealing my braless status to the world and it was fantastic. What has motherhood done to your body that you are yet to embrace? More junk in your trunk? A sillohette made for a corset? How far have you come in the journey of learning to love yourself again?

Simple Touches For The Perfect Modern Home

There are a lot of different interior design styles, and many people struggle to figure out which one is right for them. However, even if you do figure out which is the right style, it can often be just as difficult to figure out how to bring that style into your home in a natural way. One of the most popular styles these days is a very clean, sleek, modern style that emphasises clean lines and open spaces. There are a lot of things to recommend this style. For one thing, it's incredibly fashionable, and it allows you to really make the most of even the humblest space. In order to help you embrace this style, here are a few simple tips to help you create a thoroughly modern home.

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Replace the essentials There are certain things that every home needs in order to function. From taps to toilets to kitchen counters, without these things, your life is going to be pretty difficult. However, just because these things are primarily functional doesn't mean that they can't impact the style of your home. Replacing these essentials with ones in a more modern style can make a big difference to the feel of your home. Check out Tap Warehouse for cheap toilets that fit perfectly within this style, as well as taps and sinks for both bathrooms and kitchens. Similarly, replacing old, dated kitchen counters with something a little bit more elegant can completely change the way that room feels.

Keep things simple Some styles work really well with a great deal of ostentatious design; modern style is not one of those. If you really want to make the most out of the style that you're trying to create, it's time to embrace a minimalist design aesthetic. You should clear out as much clutter as possible and make sure that things are as clean and simple as possible. Similarly, you don't want bold patterns all over the walls. Simple, subtle colours are the best way to really emphasise this new style.

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Create space It can often seem very difficult to create space in your home, especially if you don't have that much room to begin with. However, there are plenty of things that you can do in order to both create space and create a sense of space. One of the best ways to do this is simply to bring more light into your home. Using pale colours on the walls is a great way to do this as well as making sure that nothing is preventing natural light from coming in through the windows. Similarly, you should try experimenting with the arrangement of the rooms in your home in order to find the best use of the space that you have.

Of course, not every home is going to be ideal for this kind of style. The important thing is to think about both the style of your property itself, and your personal style. A combination of those two things is often the very best way to create an interior style that you'll be happy with for years to come.

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Here’s How You Can Turn Your Mum Skills Into Job Skills

Ask any mum to reel off the skills she has acquired by having children, and she will likely give you a comprehensive list. You can probably think of a few yourself, and you will be surprised at the number of things you have learned to do. If you have devoted yourself to being a full-time mum, you will realise it is more demanding than many jobs in the workplace. Yet, when it comes to returning to work after a long period away from the job market, many mums struggle when it comes to working on their c.v. Why? For starters, there may be a huge gap between jobs as they focussed on motherhood instead of a career. Why would an employer choose them when their last job was several years ago? Surely they have become unemployable after being out of work for so long. When it comes to writing about job skills on the c.v., a lot of mums may find themselves struggling to write anything in this section. However, we have some encouraging news for anybody finding themselves in this situation.

As a mum, you have learned some valuable skills at home, and there is no reason why these can’t be transferred to the workplace. When it comes to writing your c.v., you have more to write about than you imagined. Yes, there may be a gap between jobs, but you have an excellent excuse as to why that is. It is the skills you have acquired as a parent that will help you find work, and you shouldn’t be ashamed to broadcast them to the employment world. You may need extra training for certain job roles, but you may already have some of the experience necessary when it comes to your future career.

In this article, we will list several skills you have probably acquired as a mum. No doubt you will be able to add more to the list, and these will help you when it comes to working on your c.v. or filling out those dreaded application forms. So, were you worried about your employability? Fear not, you already have what it takes. Read on to find out more.

Caring At the top of the list, and rightfully so. A mother’s instinct is to care for her child, even when her patience is severely tested by bad behaviour. Before parenthood, you may have only thought of yourself, but suddenly having somebody to care for will have given you the skills needed to help others. Of course, you may have always been a caring person, so being a mother may have been a natural fit for your character. You will never stop caring for your children, but you can extend that care to others. There are loads of jobs out there, and you can find some of them at https://www.staffnurse.com/category/care. Thinking of others before yourself has become normal as a parent, so whether you choose to work with children or adults, a job in the caring field may be right for you.

Time management For many people, there never seems to be enough hours in the day to deal with all the tasks that befall them. However, this is something you have likely become adept in. As a parent, you understand the need to prioritise tasks and meet deadlines like a pro. Consider everything you need to fit into the day. Getting your children ready for school, planning and preparing meals, dealing with homework, sorting out the household chores. The list goes on and on, and that doesn’t include trying to find some precious time to yourself. You have learned to manage time, no matter how difficult it may have seemed when you first started out as a parent.

For more on time management, have a look at the advice given on https://targetjobs.co.uk/careers-advice/skills-and-competencies. This is one skill that may be second nature to you, and when you do go for that all-important job interview, you will have no trouble getting there on time to make that excellent first impression.

Problem solving You will be solving problems on a daily basis, and these will no doubt be on a practical and emotional level. When your child comes home from school and tells you about an issue they are having with a teacher or fellow pupil, you will need to deal with it. When their favourite toy breaks and they won’t rest until it has been fixed, you are going to have to sort the issue, either by repairing it or replacing it with something else! When they refuse to eat their vegetables, you will need to find creative ways to get them to eat healthily. Those are just some examples of problems you have no doubt encountered, and you will probably be able to fill an entire book on the issues you have solved.

Furthermore, many of the problems you have been faced with will have been unexpected, and you will have needed to think on your feet in dealing with them. To be honest, we don’t know why you’re reading this article, as you can probably solve the dilemma of finding work yourself without our advice! Regardless, many jobs require problem-solving skills, and you no doubt have the knack to deal with them. These are some of the best jobs for problem solvers: http://uk.businessinsider.com/best-jobs-for-problem-solvers, so have a look, and you may find something that suits you!

Financial management Remember when the money you had to spend was your own? Then your children arrived, and you had to give up buying items for your wardrobe in favour of your child's! As a mum, you will need to budget for everything, from clothes to food, as well as birthdays, Christmas, and other events around the year that are attached to the school calendar. As well as dealing with your personal finances, you will probably have spent time instructing your child on the value of money yourself. When they constantly pester you for a new game or toy, you will no doubt have explained that money doesn’t grow on trees! By giving them pocket money, you will have also trained them to save their money for items they are desperate for.

There is a great list of financial skills at https://www.thebalance.com/finance-skills-list. Many of these you will already have developed as a thrifty parent, and there is no reason why these shouldn’t be included on your c.v.

Crisis management All is calm in life, you finally sit back after a busy day with a glass of wine, and then disaster strikes, and your peace is shattered. Sound familiar? Assuming you do have time to relax, of course, you will recognise the scene when a crisis suddenly unfolds around you. Your neighbour turns up at the door to let you know a football kicked by your child has just smashed their window. The school phones to let you know your child has just thrown up all over the dinner hall. Your child suddenly announces that their school project needs to be finished today, and it is the first time you hear about it! There are any number of crises that a parent will face on a daily basis, and they could easily top any disaster movie currently at the cinema.

So, if you can keep your head while everybody around you is losing theirs, a job involving crisis management may just be the job for you. Of course, a crisis can happen in any workplace, but for a more specific job role, there is some great advice to be found at this website: http://melissaagnes.com for anybody wanting to be a crisis management professional.

Communication This is a rather broad category, but as a parent, you will have learned to communicate with all kinds of people. For starters, you will have the skills to talk to children through the experience of looking after your own. From giving instructions to offering advice and support, you have hopefully developed the ability to speak simply without being patronising. Then, of course, are the other people you have learned to talk to, including teachers and other parents. These may have been difficult conversations, and there will have been times when you have had to defuse heated situations or needed to put your point across in a positive but firm manner.

You need communication skills in almost every workplace, and if you possess the skills listed here, https://www.thebalance.com/communication-skills-list, you will stand out in the market. Let’s face it, if you can cope with the demands of a temper tantrum from your child, you can deal with any adult you have to work with.

Finally So, what are you waiting for? The workplace should no longer be a scary place as you have the skills needed to succeed.

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