|Eliza Riding in The Car - Bradley Gordon, Flickr|
This question had my spidey senses all tingly because I suspect this is not the question you're really asking. I think the real question is something along the lines of:
'How can I tell someone I don't want to take the baby on a long journey?'
'Why are people judging me for taking my baby on a long journey?'
'Can you give me a legitimate reason to turn down an invitation that involves taking my baby on a long journey?
Here's your legitmate reason - you are her mother. A mother's life is filled with powerful and sometimes direct judgements about the way she parents, it can be hard not to collapse under the weight of other people's opinions. Maybe someone's asking you to visit and you're anxious about the journey. They give you sermon and song about how absolutely perfect their baby was in the car. They make you feel lazy or fussy or horror of horrors boring for not relenting. You may be all those things but guess what, that's you're perogative because you are her mother.
This advice might seem a little woolly but it's really important you get your head round it and embrace it. Practice for a week or so. She will eat this banana because I'm her mother. She will wear these socks because I am her mother and then when someone asks you to do something and you really don't want it to happen you say, 'that's nice but no thank you,' (no excuse, no justification) and in your head remind yourself, because I am her mother.
Perhaps I'm wrong and you are genuinely worried that stepping out of her routine will lead your little one to a life of crime and misery. One day she will heave with heavy sobs as she recounts the journey to grandmas to her therapist. I can assure you this will not happen. Go, drive away, have fun! Children are hardy little things and they can survive a shake up to their rountine; the question is can you? If you have a slick routine, a major shift can result in up to a week of readjustment. Babies don't like getting used to new things and they have limited ways to express this. All of those ways involve causing mental anguish to their mothers. When I find myself in an emotional battle between something I think I should do and a disruption to my family routine I ask myself, is this worth a week of pain? Of course it's not always a week but it's best to be on the safe side. More often the not the answer is no and people, even *gasp* child free people, totally get that. I have turned things down by saying, 'I'm sorry, doing that will just result in a week of pain,' and with the exception of my mother, everyone totally understands.
For ten brilliant tips on taking babies on long car journeys check out this fab post from Baby Routes.