Moderate Mum Guide to Year One: What to do when you return to work


There's been a small change on my about me page. Who knew such  a small change could represent such a great shift. I've removed three words - stay at home. Yes this girl is gonna fumble outta bed, stumble to the kitchen and pour myself a cup of ambition because I'm going back to work. Only part time but it still feels like the end of an era. I'm not really worried about Roscoe, to be honest he loves his nursery so much he literally hides when I come to pick him up, but I'm concerned about what it means for me. I've loved this stay at home identity, I've made it my own. I know I can be great at home, I know I can be good at work and now I embark on the daunting task of doing both at the same time. If you're coming to the end of maternity leave here are five tips for returning to work. 

WEAR CLEAN CLOTHES And make sure they fit whilst you're at it. This might come as a surprise but after you've had a baby your body may have changed a little bit. Don't just assume that you can pull out your old work clothes and feel good in them. I also found that when I went back to my pre baby wardobe some of it just wasn't didn't feel like me anymore. Have a good clear out and if you can hit the shops for an inspiring back to work outfit.

GET A MAKE OVER If you wear make up to work, and apparently you should, a make over will make you feel really pampered and also help to mark the transition from baby life to grown up world. I also found my make up needs changed after having my son. I never wore lipstick before having him, to be frank I like snacking too much for it to be worth it, but now I'm always rocking a dramatic lip. It helps me look alive.  I don't think you can do better than a MAC makeover which is £30 but you can spend that on products afterwards but loads of counters are willing to give you that back to work glow. 

HAVE A PICTURE Make sure you get a nice picture of you and your baby on your phone before you go back and think about having it as your screensaver. Not only will you need it for little mini me fixes throughout the day but people will want to see the evidence of what you've been off doing and it's saves time to have it to hand rather than having to scroll through hundreds of breastfeeding shots and selfies (true story) to get to one. 

SET YOUR BOUNDARIES Every parent knows that the job doesn't stop because they're out of your reach, never has the phrase 'out of sight, out of mind' been less apt. That being said if you've committed to your employer they deserve your best so you must let everyone know from the start what you can give and when. If you have to leave at four on the dot to collect the baby then you let your boss know that's what you have to do but in return that means you can't spend twenty minutes discussing bake off, even if it is bread week. 

FIND YOUR PURPOSE Even if you're only going to work to keep your precious in Barny Bears you've got to find a purpose there. For some of us being away from our child needs to be worth it; sometimes we forget we can be the ones to make it so. Perhaps you'll decide to speak up more and develop  your confidence or maybe you'll be more of a team player and strengthen your relationship building. Developing as an individual will only make you a better parent and perhaps those skills will help you when, dare I say it, that little one has become a big one and finally flown the coop. 

If you have any return to work tips I'd love to hear them. If you have any posts with your return to work experiences why not come back on Tuesday for my 'Advice From The Heart' linky co-hosted with Happy Mama Happy Baby



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  1. Earlier this year I went for my first job interview since becoming a mum & you're right about the clothes - not only did my 'work' clothes not fit they were a good 5 years out of date! Will def return for your linky on Tuesday with tips for working from home with a baby x #justanotherlinky

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    1. I couldn't believe that fashion actually changed when I was off having a baby! I got back to the shops and the middle had been cut off all the tops :)

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  2. Tip, allow yourself time to enjoy being at work and away from home. It's nice sometimes, lots of the time and you shouldn't feel guilty about that. Most of us know going to work is a break, often so much easier. You can go to the toilet in your own and have a hot drink. Heaven.

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    1. All the hot tea drinking is defomy favourite bit x

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  3. This is great - I can relate to it all. I went back to work after Finley and I dreaded it but I was 'me' for two days but missed him so much! Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky xx

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  4. I was a stay at home mum for a little while after having my little boy because I was pregnant with my little girl quite quickly so didn't feel right going back to work only to take maternity leave again a few moths later. I loved it, and imagined I would continue until my children went to school. Unfortunately things didn't work out that way and I ended up going to work when my little lady was 9 month. It was so daunting, but I do enjoy having a job. I could have used these tips before making the big move back in to the workplace though!x

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    1. Thanks for stopping by! I didn't really have a clear plan of what I wanted to do work wise, which had it's advantages and disadvantages. Glad you've got work you enjoy x

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  5. Oh wow! Good luck on the big move back to work! I'm considering taking up some freelance work once a week and even that is feeling a bit daunting. I've become the master of my home haha. When I got pregnant I threw out all my corporate clothes when I grew out of them. Back then I didn't know I wouldn't return after maternity leave but I did know that when the time came to wear them again I wouldn't want to wear my boring old wardrobe again and it would need some spucing x #fromtheheart

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    1. Ooh I like your style, maybe your mummy instinct was kicking in and you knew on some level x

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  6. I love your writing...you manage to inject humour while still making valid serious points, amazing! I haven't ventured back to the 'real world' fully yet and number two will be helping to delay that further but I'll def try and remember to wear clean clothes and invest in make up that is still the intended shade when i do!! :) #fromtheheart

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  7. Great post! I was so scared about going back to work and how that would take me out of my comfort zone. I'm still working on trying to find a balance but we've come leaps and bounds in the last 6 months. Good luck! #fromtheheart

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    1. Thank you! I like reading about how you're working things on your blog. Freelance careers have advantages and challenges x

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  8. Well done for getting a job!! I'm applying for jobs but so scared to go back - I think I am more scared of having to work for someone and not myself and the money for not being able to afford childcare for my girls.

    Great post. Thank you for linking up with #justanotherlinky

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