Motherhood is like a tent in the woods - Advice from the heart linky



I went camping over the weekend. In a tent. I did this because my beautiful friend Sharon is soon to be turning forty and a group of her closest friends had arranged to surprise her in the woods. I know that sounds like the start of a horror film but she was very touched.
I wasn’t completely enamoured with the idea of communing with nature in September in England. The last time I camped was with the South Norwood brownie guide troop in 1990. My overriding memories are not peeing for 48 hours, for fear that a spider would bite my bottom and begging my dad for KFC on the way home.
I camped. I did it because the need to see a smile on my wonderful friend’s face was worth wearing thermals. I did it because she is a friend I would camp for (‘You are a friend I would camp for’ - I’m thinking of getting badges made). I did it because the work and the muck was how I wanted to say I care for her. Which is why camping made me think about motherhood.
It doesn’t matter how many books you read you can never predict how your camping experience will go – maybe it will rain, maybe the ground will be hard. You can prepare all you like but at the end of the day you have to lean in and work with what the elements throw at you. When I was pregnant I read all of the books. All of them. The funny ones, the clever ones, the celebrity ones – nothing would prepare me for the trials of parenthood.
It rained, of course it rained. And we made it fun, we made it part of the adventure because what was the alternative, sitting and crying and allowing life to end something wonderful? I do this every day with my son, battle through the rainy bits, because I need him to know that he is beautiful and no matter what I will do whatever I can to make life beautiful for him.
At the weekend, when we needed to eat, we had to build a fire. No matter how difficult and boring it got we kept going and the perseverance made it better, because each night we could sit round that fire, get a little bit drunk and celebrate this thing we had made together. That’s the important bit. Camping and parenthood is so much better when you share the highs and lows and celebrate the wins as a team.
I’d like to think that as parents we’re one big team, working together to help another generation shine brightly. I so love hearing your stories because they lift me up on the days when motherhood feels like being alone in a tent in the woods.
If you’re a blogger and you’d like to share one of your posts please see the rules here. Last week Appealing rabbit offered to give a card game to our two favourites and those were ‘Our Battle with Ezcema’ from Pinks Charming and ‘Parenthood and Relationships’ from Baby Pixie and Beauty.


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10 comments

  1. A brilliant post hun. You're right we all have to face those rainy days, but once in a while the sun sneaks out from behind the clouds and shines down. It may only be for a second but it makes your day when it happens. :) xx

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    1. Thanks so much. You're so right, sometimes that little ray of sunshine is all you need x

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  2. Aw this is a beautiful post! I hate camping too so I completely get it. And it's true, you never know how it's going to turn out so you just have to go with it. Thanks for hosting x #advicefromtheheart

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    1. Thanks so much for coming by and linking up. I think I'm a camping convert, I shouldn't invite you to my blogger camp trip then ;)

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  3. This is such a beautiful post, and in fact my favourite post I have read in a long time! Such a good analogy, and you are so right! Nothing can truly prepare you for motherhood, and whilst there may be many rainy days, the times when the sun shines makes everything worthwhile. Being a mother is the most incredible thing, and this post has just reminded me of how lucky I am to be on that journey with my little baby boy xx

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    1. I'm so glad you enjoyed it. I definitely have to remind myself that the ups and downs make us stronger and will ultimately make the journey better x

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  4. I think you should make "you're a friend I would camp for" into a greetings card. I'd buy it. I too have friends I would camp for even though the idea of camping makes me shiver.
    Sounds like you had a really memorable trip and it gave you some lovely lessons to live through life with. Love how it translates into parenting

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    1. Thank you. Yes, perhaps I will develop a range: You're a friend I would ....... for. For me the blank could read: camp, run, give up chocolate.

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  5. Haha that's a good friend right there. I have to say - the last time I camped was for my mum's 50th birthday celebration. It was meant to be over two nights and there was 50 + people with tents pitched. We were in the Australian bush, it was 40 degrees and creatures EVERYWHERE! I woke up the morning after the first night after her birthday celebration in a blaring hot tent with a raging headache. At breakfast I swallowed a fly. It was after that I went home - couldn't even see the two days out! You're adventure did sound more fun than mine though haha. Loved reading this post x

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  6. Ha ha! That's brilliant. The Australian bush is next level camping though! I'm absolutely not ready for that.

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