Mission Acceptance - Accept a little joy



Last week I wrote about my occasionally tendency to dip my toes into the sea of negativity and not because it felt nice but because it was easy. I think we like to believe that joy is a given, that it shouldn't be something we have to work at but a baseline that we are entitled to. In the past when I have been feeling a bit 'woe is me' my husband has reminded me that happiness isn't just going to 'arrive one day in a taxi' and although I would nod my head solemnly, but I would be thinking, Whyyyy! It' snot fair! The idea of having to work for it was too much work. 

It's become a blogger cliche banging on about hashtag finding the joy but like many cliches it exists because there's some truth in it. Why do we need to be reminded through snapshots of artfully filtered life to seek out something so wonderful and life affirming, because we're scared. Okay, let me own it, because I'm scared. Scared of my own power. If I have it in me to control my joy why not everything else? 

As a support worker I have had the privilege of working with families in some of the most challenging circumstances one could imagine and many of these individuals have been some of the most joyful I have met. When happiness isn't handed to you, you are forced to make your own and when you become practiced at doing that it becomes easier to tap into that skill when you need it. 

I want to make that skill a habit, as instinctive as my morning cup of coffee and so this week's mission was to start small and inject just a few minutes of joy into life each day. Personally I feel the most joy when I'm not thinking, just feeling and I'm no more in the moment than when I'm dancing. I used to dance quite regularly, at one point every Friday and funds allowing Saturday, but creaking joints and baby birthing put paid to that, so now I don't do it much at all. This week I decided that I don't need power hungry bouncers and warm mixed drinks to dance, I can do it in my PJs and that's what I did. Every day I danced to a tune from my life affirming playlist. I felt a bit self conscious the first day, even though I was alone but the next day it felt natural and the day after I invited my son to join me and he did gladly. I found that when joy is shared it grows exponentially, the joy I was throwing out he was catching, enhancing and throwing back to me. 

The best thing about making your own joy is not even the moment itself but the way it underpins your day; shifts your perspective just enough to find the green shoots in cracks of the cement wall of life. So there were moments when I felt a bit anxious, for example I attended my friend's book launch and was all in my own head about the crowds of super polished professionals, but my spiritual gaze turned towards the joy (My pride in my friend; a child free event; free white wine!) and although the anxiety wasn't eliminated it felt like a fly buzzing round the joy cake I had baked. 

The best thing about teaching myself to be joyful was feeling more confident that I can teach my son to be so too; it has surpassed good manners and proper hygiene in my non negotiable parenting goals list. When all is said and done life, and parenting, is about creation and given the choice shouldn't you choose to create just a little more joy?

My life affirming playlist this week (don't judge):

Survivor - Destiny's Child 
Jump Around - House of Pain
Move on Up - Curtis Mayfield 
Do You Know the Way to San Jose - Dionne Warwick 
Teenage Dream - Katy Perry 
No Control - One Direction 
Love on Top - Beyonce 

What do you or would you do to bring a little joy into your life every day?

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15 comments

  1. I love the image of your joy cake with just a little anxiety fly buzzing around it... such a great description! My son has recently discovered a love of music - mainly from the eighties. He's often to be heard singing his own variations of the classics now, and makes requests. it's fun to share some of your favourites with the younglings :)

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    1. Thank you, he has excellent taste!

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  2. I also love the joy cake image. And the playlist is fab too! Reminds me I need to put some tunes on and dance around-seems like the only dancing I do these days is the group dance from In The Night Garden. #fartglitter

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    1. In fairness the tombliboos can bust some moves!

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  3. I'd dance with you guys anytime. There's only one track out of your list I'd want to sit out. I love a little kitchen boogie.

    #fartglitter

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    1. Awesome! The more the merrier. You can sit one out and get the tea going, dancing's thirsty work.

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  4. I love dancing in the house! & Jump Around usually features on my house dancing playlist too (though I refuse to get on board with One Direction)! This is a great mission - could do with focusing on this more too. #fartglitter

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    1. Jump Around is my son's favourite song so it's fair to say he has better taste in music than me :)

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  5. Brilliant song choices - no judgment here! I love how music can lift your spirits & take your mind to different places! #sharewithme

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  6. Nice play list. Although we always misheard the Destiny's Child lyrics as "I'm a survivor, a bus driver ..." Sorry!

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    1. Ha ha! Misheard lyrics are my favourite

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  7. Loving that playlist! Music can always bring me joy. I sometimes fall into the negativity trap but then I try and focus on something that brings me joy and it lifts me. x

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  8. What a great post and what a fun playlist too! Thanks so much for linking up with #MadMidWeek

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  9. I love this, what a great idea. I cant think of anyway better to feel pure happiness and joy than to dance around in your pjs. I did it with my little lady one random Sunday morning a few weekends ago and it was the best feeling ever. To this day, the memory occassionally pops up in my mind and makes me smile from the inside. What a great way to find and make joy in your life. I think Ill join you tomorrow morning for some more dancing in my pjs ;-) Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Emily

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  10. Great post!! What a motivational blog post and great outlook that you learning to be joyful helps teach it to your son. Amazing hun. Thanks for linking up to #ShareWithMe.

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