Mission Acceptance - Accept another way


Last Sunday I asked my friend Adele to make me my favourite dessert - a beautifully light tiramisu made with lots of love and lashings of booze. She instantly agreed and added that she was pleased that I as finally asking for help. I was confused. Do I not reach out to others? If anything I thought I asked too much. I'm the non driver always bagging a lift; the the technophobe getting some poor soul to talk me through yet another iphone update but I'm open to suggestions and if I needed to try asking for a helping hand or two I was going to accept that. The mission was to ask someone for help everyday. It felt like quite an easy one, I pictured a week of lovely smiling minions carrying my bag. 

I went through day one feeling great but I try as I might I couldn't find a single person willing to give me a hand. It's not like I was crying in a ditch or anything but no one was rushing to my aid at any point. The second day continued in much the same vein, I'd all but abandoned the mission when a man stopped me as I was bouncing Roscoe's buggy up some inconveniently located steps, 'Can I help you?' he asked. I was just about to wave him away when I stopped myself and gratefully allowed him to grab hold of the bottom of the buggy. To be honest it was pretty awkward and I spent the whole time anxious that the dude was gonna do his back in. This help malarkly wasn't all it was cut out to be. 

The next day I decided to be creative and asked a friend to help me organise a night out. He did great, picking a fab venue and starting to spread the word but instead of feeling grateful I felt a bit antsy; I didn't just want to sit by a helpless bystander. I wanted to be in on the action. Despite asking for help I muscled in and started contacting people myself. I was the worst helpee in the world. 

I was getting frustrated with myself. I couldn't ask for help if my life depended on it and then I thought maybe that's what I have to accept. It was quite wonderful really, I've always thought of myself as a little bit hapless and really quite needy, it was quite a revelation to know that maybe I had some stuff together, it takes strength to ask for help but it also takes strength to get up, get out and get it done all by yourself. 


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5 comments

  1. I never ask for help either and then I get so worked up and stressed and people tell me I should've asked them for help, haha. I know what you mean though, sounds a bit stressful asking for help too! Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo

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  2. You know, you're still always right Mod Mum! Isn't it weird that we are all (mostly) keen to help but find it weirder to ask for help ourselves? I suppose the only exception to this for me is when I'm felling lazy and ask my husband to go and get something for me (baby wipes, wine, snacks etc) and I have absolutely no qualms in asking for help for someone to change a stinky nappy either...so actually maybe I'm not too bad for not asking for help. But in saying that I almost feel a little anxious now at the thought of asking someone I don't know much for help, maybe it's a British politeness self sufficiency thing?

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  3. Yes, I'm not one to ask for help either. Mostly I'd rather things were done my way and so it's easier to just do them. I guess there are worse things :-)

    #fartglitter

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  4. I am much the same, perhaps it it what comes with being strong for a long time and just 'getting on'. Plus, I like things to be done and done properly, ha! ;)

    PS: Tiramisu is my absolute fave too!

    Faye x

    #MarvMondays

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  5. Love this. I'm not very good at this - I like to be able to do things myself & my way, but I am aware that mrtakes others feel not needed. #fartglitter

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