The day I understood shame


I didn't vote. I won't even disrespect you by dressing that up with a flowery, quirky intro. There is no intro flowery enough to mask the stench of those words. I did not vote. I don't even want to go into the reasons, evey reason sounds like the dog ate my voting slip. I will admit one thing - I mistook my Facebook feed for a cross section of society. I forgot that even when you pride yourself on being open to everyone and embracing diversity - like attracts like. 

I have always voted. I remember my first opportunity to do so as an idealistic university student, eager to help create change. I've let her down. I've read a lot of anger today, a lot of sadness and many others asking for less shaming, less blaming. I've seen and heard, we're all friends - let's not call each other out. I agree we should have respect for each other but we don't have to respect each others opinions. Please show your children that you are empassioned; that you believe in something, that you believe in yourself. Celebrate or commiserate with abandon, let them hear your truth, so that in time they might find their own. 

I don't have an opinion on today's results. I don't have a right to an opinion because I made myself voiceless. I have spent the last six months writing about accepting myself but I can't accept my inaction. For me this date will never be Independence Day or the day that Britain ceased to be Great, it will always be the day I truly understood shame. 


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  1. I am not a citizen of this country and I am looking at the result of this election as an observer. This is a very brave post. #pocolo

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  2. Bless you! This is such a brave post.

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  3. I really respect your honesty. Thanks for sharing so authentically, as always. x

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  4. I live outside the UK but I'm British, the ramifications of this vote are huge for my husband and I, in regards to ours and our children's future. Therefore it was very important to us that we cast our vote. 1 of our children didn't vote and some of our family members voted the opposite to us. We still have no idea if our postal vote arrived in time to be counted, for the general election my husbands arrived back in the Uk too late and mine never reached me in the first place. Voting or not voting is the right for every individual, all we can do now is to work together to move this forward.

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    1. I'm especially proud of people who go the extra mile to exercise their right to vote. For all the angst currently being expressed, I still believe we are a nation that knows how to pull together.

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  5. i voted and in some ways wish i didnt so i didnt have to feel as rubbish as i do now- if i hadnt of voted i wouldnt have got so emotionally involved lol
    #pocolo

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    1. I don't think it would have made a difference. My vote wouldn't have changed anything but at least I would be able to say I played my part.

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  6. I've been banging the drum over here in the States trying to get people to understand the seriousness of this Nov's Presidential election. From what I've seen, the demographics of the voters who came out in the UK were mainly the older population. If that also happens over here, we are in big trouble #pocolo

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    1. I feel like the younger generation here feel disempowered. They don't see point in voting, they don't understand they have a choice. I hope and pray that this isn't the feeling in your homeland

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  7. Oh hun - I don't know what to say. I've always voted and felt this one was more important than the rest, and again looking at my newsfeed thought the remains had it. I've never felt so sick about a result. Maybe I just hadn't prepared myself for that happening based on my feed. My only advice is what's done is done, you can't vote now and we're in a new world. Your one vote wouldn't have made that much of a difference so the best you can do for you is take a breath, dust yourself down and remember to vote next time. Thanks for linking to #PoCoLo

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