What advice would you give to parents who feel pressured after making the decision not to vaccinate?


We have decided not to vaccinate because of the ingredients in them, we currently feel he is too young to have poison put in his body. Whether he will have them later in life or never is our decision but every time we go to the doctors we feel under pressure and scrutinised by them. What advice would you give to parents who feel pressured after making the decision not to vaccinate their children? And is there any safer alternatives that don't have mercury in? - Hannah


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I don't know, like I don't know in the most shameless, wide eyed emoji way. I'll tell you how much I don't know. I didn't even know mercury was in vaccines until you mentioned it and even if I had known I wouldn't have known it was a bad thing and now I can't look it up because my kid has been vaccinated up to his eyeballs and I don't want to scare myself. And to a degree no one ever knows anything as a parent, we can just make the best decisions with the information we have available to us and hope for the frickin' best. In a few years time we may decide that breast milk is evil or pushchairs induce anxiety in children and we'll all be screwed, so the only choice you have is to believe what you believe and believe it to your core. 

Start by creating a list of why you've made the decision, actually put pen to paper or finger to iPhone or whatever gets you going. Create the most comprehensive, unemotional itinerary of why you've chosen to protect your child in this way. Then, and this is the important bit, never mention any of these reasons to anyone. Reasons, however rational, sound like justifications and justifications look like an open window through which people can shove their own agendas. From this position if anyone tries to raise their concerns or voice their opinion you will be able to shut. Them. Down. Here's what you say to anyone that questions you, 

'We've made the decision not to vaccinate.' 
'But I'd like to draw your attention to research that says blah, blah, blah...'
'Thanks but we've made the decision not to vaccinate.' 
'Perhaps you would like to consider blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah...'
'I understand but we've made the decision not to vaccinate.' 

Do this with a smile. I know this sounds alarmingly simple but sometimes life is; in the absence of abuse it's actually nobodies business how you raise your child but your own. Eventually those dissenting voices will feel like PPI calls - mildly irritating but almost instantly forgettable.  

Other voices on vaccines:
Why my kids do not get vaccines  
Childhood Vaccinations - A homeopathic view

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13 comments

  1. I honestly wouldn't know either. I always 100% knew I wanted to get L vaccinated for me the risks were too great so I never looked into alternatives. #bestandworst

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  2. I don't think I could really advise anyone on this as I've never really considered anyone else's decision on the matter. For me it was 100% yes to vaccination, but that was my choice. To each their own, and I would never even consider challenging someone else as I don't think it's my place. Thought provoking post x #bestandworst

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  3. ah such an emotive subject and each to their own. personally I am all for vaccination and paid privately to have b vaccinated against men-b. I've seen the horrors of this in our local news and it's just too sad not to invest that money in b's future. in my opinion!! #bestandworst

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  4. I'm not one to judge, every one has different beliefs and they do what is right for their family. We are all for vaccination in our house, we believe that the pros of vaccination far out way the cons.

    #bestandworst

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  5. I disagree but I respect your choice. These parenting decisions are so hard, it's good to illuminate some of the ways we can make our decisions (and explaining those decisions to others) a bit easier. #brillblogposts

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  6. I think this needs to be followed through to its logical conclusion. If you refuse a vaccine, do you also refuse emergency medical treatment in the event of an accident or some other event? The chemicals and medicines used by a trauma team will have a greater chance of producing an unwelcome side effect than a vaccine. Also, the likelihood of your child falling ill and contracting a debilitating condition such as encephalitis is considerably greater than any risk posed by a vaccine. As you can possibly tell, I am firmly on the side of long-standing, empirical, peer-reviewed medical research. I know I shouldn't judge, but prevention is better than cure.

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    1. I think you can judge, especially when you do it in such an intelligent, informed way :) I like to manage risks. For me the risk of not vaccinating is death (sorry to be blunt) so no contest.

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  7. #Oops, forgot, #BrilliantBlogPosts

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  8. I fully respect your opinion but profoundly disagree. If we look at polio, for example. This has only been eradicated in the UK because of herd immunity - meaning that so many people were vaccinated that the pathogen could no longer spread. Vaccination only works properly if a lot of people do it. If everyone exercised their right not to be vaccinated we would be living with diseases such as smallpox and polio today. I do not want my kids exposed to that I'm afraid. You are quite rightly balancing the risks presented by the disease with the risks presented by the mercury and I understand that. However, the risks presented by the disease are lower - because other people have had THEIR children vaccinated. If there was a polio outbreak in your street perhaps you would feel the balance of risk had changed? I absolutely agree that you have the right to decide but the prevalence of these diseases is affected by vaccination rates and, I would argue, that makes it the business of everyone in society. #BrillBlogPosts

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    1. Well said! I don't think I agree with the if everybody did it argument, life isn't that simple when it comes to being a parent - I could not hand on heart say that I would not take advantage of other peoples efforts for the benefit of my child but it is important to think about community in the current political climate

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  9. ooh hun this was a tough question to be asked. So well done you for trying to answer it fairly. I could't answer it as I feel people who do not are blinded by ridiculous, unfounded science and are risking an awful lot to their child and others around them. I can't write much more as I'd be on my soap box!!! Thanks for sharing with #bestandworst xx

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    1. Thanks hun! Your soap box is very cute and stylish

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  10. Helloooo. I'm so sorry I just had to comment, I cannot emphasis just how important it is to vaccinate your children (nurse head on I'm afraid) do you know how many diseases have more or less been eradicated due to the vaccination programs the NHS offer. I'm certain that the alternative of something like smallpox or polio is enough to make the decision making simpler. They obviously go through rigorous testing to ensure that it is safe for our children otherwise these things wouldn't be allowed into the mainstream for use. I would never pressure anyone and it is of course up to the individual but I expect the staff in the surgery aren't pressuring but just concerned that if people don't vaccinate, these illnesses and diseases could spread and evolve and I for certain don't want to expose my children to that. #bestandworst

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