Many rivers to cross or why the blog has gone a bit sh*t


If you're a regular reader of this blog and there are two of you (Hi mum!) you may have noticed a curious lack of postage, a dip in my presence in the Twittosphere, perhaps a little less fun in my funk. I feel like I owe you an explanation. This is because I am in the process of rebuilding my life and identity, one (occasionally tear soaked) day at a time, or in more recognisable terms - I am going through a separation. 

I haven't written about this and won't again for a while because my son's father is one of those weird people who values his privacy but he has given me permission to post this because he is awesome and because I like to shout a lot about keeping it real and this is really happening. This is the realest. 

I have struggled to keep up with regular programming because I have to prioritise being a mother and becoming a new formation of a family and doing a lot of adulting, so I'm here to let you know I'm back and for a while I'm going to be posting from the heart and without a plan because I now understand what they mean about the best laid plans. I will still be doing Mission Acceptance but because I'll be addressing a lot of personal stuff during my journey, I won't always write about it (these people and their healthy boundaries). The Mission Acceptance shout out will become The Moderate Mum newsletter and you will still get all the Mission juicy bits, access to giveaways and previews to the fun stuff I have coming up if you stay on board. 

In the meantime, this much I know...

  • People will make your separation about them
  • You are still a family even when it doesn't look the way you imagined it would
  • Some people just get it 
  • Some people don't get it and they are still wonderful to have around
  • You don't know what's going on in a relationship unless you're in it and maybe not even then
  • Soul mates are those that bring out the best you but the best you may need to live apart from them
  • Being brave and feeling brave do not necessarily go hand in hand
  • The children are always, always the most important thing
  •  When in doubt blast out some Beyonce
  •  Choose an amazing father or mother for your children and you will have done all you can do
  • There are no right or wrong decisions, there are just decisions and the life you build after them 
  • Regrets I've had a few but then again too few to mention 
  • Your partner is probably taking care of a load of crap you aren't even aware of - thank them. 
  • No matter how old you are, when the shit hits the fan you will want your mum
  • Children keep you connected and boy is that a blessing
  •  Don't it always seem to go that you don't know what you got til it's gone 
  • U2 had it right 

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  1. Sending hugs and strength - you can do this - thx for linking to #pocolo x

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  2. I am brimming over with admiration. I'm sure your words will be of comfort to many others experiencing similar episodes in their lives.

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  3. Aw this is so sad. Your writing and your attitude is so amazing. I can see you will come through this strong. I hope your as ok as you can be

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  4. Girl... I totally love you .. All the heart emojis xx

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  5. I can only send you love and hugs and say how I hope this transition goes smoothly for you. Lots of love xx

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    1. Thank you - love and hugs always appreciated x

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  6. Lovely blog entry. I hope your feeling 100% again soon #fartglitter

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  7. Lovely blog entry. I hope your feeling 100% again soon #fartglitter

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  8. What a wonderful, honest post. I really admire your bravery and your strength shows in this post, as does your kind nature. You can do this. #fartglitter

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  9. Wonderful honest post hope you are back blogging full time again soon missed you #fartglitter

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  10. I am glad to have you back, even though I don't comment much.. It's always nice to read something honest and from the bottom of your heart!

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  11. Sending virtual support and hoping that you are being kind to yourself. Fabulous, honest post written from the heart 🌸 #FartGlitter

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  12. Wow, separations are tough. Good on you for knowing what needs to come first and doing it your way. Best of luck, chin up and thanks for keeping it real :) #FartGlitter

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  13. Your words have really moved me and I just want to reach down the t'internet and give you a hug. You've summed it up so beautifully with "You are still a family even when it doesn't look the way you imagined it would" Sending you love and hugs and I genuinely hope that you're OK and on a new path to happiness. #fartglitter xx

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  14. I wish you the best during this tough time. It's not easy what your going through. Stay strong, and thanks for sharing such an honest post. #MARVmondays

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  15. Wow your attitude is amazing and so is your advice to everyone is fantastic and shows a wonderful level of respect for your son's father. Sending positive vibes your way #fartglitter

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  16. So many truths in that list. I hope the next few weeks are as settled as possible and you find your way surely again xx #MarvMondays

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  17. Such an honest and open post. Sending positive vibes your way. xx #marvmondays

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  18. Best of luck to ya. You got this. Chin up.

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  19. So sorry to hear this - a very honest and balanced post, it sounds like you've got the right approach and I'm sure your thoughts will help others. Love the title too! #fartglitter

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  20. You wrote this so beautifully.. *hugs* #MarvMondays

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  21. So sorry to hear lovely!
    Hope you're ok lovely and best of luck xx
    #MarvMondays

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  22. Oh, this is so sad to hear, I hope you are as alright as you can be and that you're taking care of yourself. I split from my daughter's dad and it was terrible. I hated him at the time but it was still awful. I can't imagine splitting from someone I loved, my thoughts are with you. I remember it being a very tiring time so indulge your need to sleep x

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    1. Thank you so much doll. You are right, it is so exhausting - my brain is going all the time x

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  23. A separation is so hard. I feel for you, and I know what your going through.I split after 22 years of marriage. My children were all adults, but it was still so hard. Take one day at a time xx
    www.vanityandmestyle.com

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  24. Oh honey, so sorry to hear your news and thank you for sharing it with us all. Its been quiet without you around.. I hope these next few days, weeks and months are as kind to you as they can be. Remember to be kind to yourself and that we are all only human. Sending all the love x #MarvMondays

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  25. I hope you're okay - you have a wonderful attitude, and blasting Beyonce definitely does help in a shitty situation! sending love and hugs xx

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  26. Thinking of you hun. Sending hugs xxx
    Thanks for linking to #pocolo. xx

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