It's time to burn my sh*t list


I'll just come out with it, I have a sh*t list. Where, other than the internet, should you reveal the darkest, dankest most shameful aspects of yourself? For those (more evolved than me) who don't know about this concept, a sh*t list is a working record of people to whom you wish to cause harm. Before you google the number for Crimestoppers, you should know my preferred method of harm is pain inflicted through my own, completely unrelated to them, success. 

It's pretty easy to get on my list and nigh on impossible to get off; there's a whole subsection for ex bosses - the one who invited me for dinner at his house, over which he told me that 'meat made him horny'; the one who started my very first supervision with the words, 'We don't have to like each other'; the one who dismissed my idea for a new work initiative and then passed it off as his own (he's in block capitals). Friends don't get on there that often, I'm a bit softer on friends as they're usually not being paid. Occasionally one does and it's always pretty painful because it turns out that a friend who makes the sh*t list was usually not a friend at all. 

The list is not entirely based on my inner evil, I use it as a motivational tool. Sometimes it's hard to find the strength to keep going and the list has served to give me that little extra boost when it's needed. When I can't be bothered to take the steps to push my life in the direction I want it to go, I think of all the members of the list laughing at my failure. 

There was one ex friend who made the sh*t list for ignoring my plea for help. I don't like asking for help and will go out of my way to avoid it. When I first had my son I used to take the most ridiculous routes around London to avoid being the woman trapped at the bottom of a flight of stairs with a buggy; so reaching out to this friend was a big deal. She didn't say no, she didn't say sorry, she just left me struggling in an ocean, when as far as I was concerned she could've easily chucked me a rubber ring. So she took her place on the list and remained there gathering dust for several years. Then I got some really good news and she sent me a message of congratulations. It was very sincere and communicated no ill will and I realised that my progress was never going to cause her pain and more to the point I wasn't bothered if it did. The reward for success is success itself and my list was not propelling me forward, it was weighing me down. 

Happiness that is based on someone else's unhappiness is like living in a mansion on a rubbish tip, it might feel nice inside but open the curtains and you're faced with a stinking pile of  crap. So I think it's time to burn my sh*t list, wanna join me?

19 comments

  1. Yes to this! Having a s*** list uses up to much energy which could probably be put to use on better things so I say burn mama burn! x

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  2. Oh my god I love this! I have never heard of a shit list before, but it sounds genius, for when you need it. But, do we need it? I say burn it! But maybe keep a mental shit list of those ones who really did you over..... ;)

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  3. I've not heard of a shit list before i do keep a mental list of enemies lol

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  4. Hahah I totally have a mental shit list, infact it's so big that if I were to write it down it would fill an entire A4 note book!! Haha!

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  5. Gosh I could have done with a shit list...never heard of it before but great idea! However the time comes when you should burn it and move on

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  6. I think I need to get a sh*t list! It's not good to have all that hate and carry it around with you, so its probably a good idea to burn it. But then I also only want people in my life who are adding to it!

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  7. I do have a mental sh*t list but have learned to let it go as I have got older

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  8. Though I don't keep a physical list I too have a shit list but only pull it out in dire situations

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  9. Haha i love this! I definitely hold a grudge too #StayClassyMama

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  10. Haha i love this! I definitely hold a grudge too #StayClassyMama

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  11. Agreed - life is just too short to waste energy dwelling on people like that, just have to forget them, pity those that are still stuck in their orbit and move on! #StayClassyMama

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  12. I don't have a negative list. I agree, carrying on with life being happy and successful is much more important that ill wishes.

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  13. Haha I am with you there! Life is too short to harbor hatred and they are not worth your time and kindness x

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  14. Oo not heard of a shit list before but yes to the burning and getting rid of all that negative energy it must consume. A sense of freedom I am sure! #StayClassy

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  15. Final line is a brilliant analogy!

    #StayClassyMama

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  16. I've never bothered with a list. To be honest, if someone crosses me I just cut them off and move on. Life is too short to waste time on people who don't mean anything to you.
    (hubby helping out)

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  17. I totally relate! My shit list has taken so long to craft, I don't think I can find it in my heart to burn it.LOL Maybe I can just cross a few names off instead? #StayClassyMama

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  18. Absolutely! Burn it. It does more harm than good in my eyes. Thank you for joining in with #StayClassyMama

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