Ten things about Martha Ross (Win a signed copy!)




I started this blog as a place to offer advice to parents. The internet is full of judgement and I wanted to create a space to let mothers and fathers know they were doing OK. My motivation was mainly sparing my friends from my unsolicited opinions but also, with over a decade working with families, I knew I had learned a lot. Over the past few years, I’ve ended a marriage, thrown myself into the dating world and learned a lot about love. I have many, many thoughts on love. So many thoughts that I wrote a book about it.

My novel, The Reinvention of Martha Ross, was published by Transworld last month and charts the messy weeks after Martha ends her marriage. Martha decides to look for love and creates a ten-point list of the qualities she wants in her ideal man, so I thought I’d share ten reasons why you might want to read her story.

1. Martha’s list was inspired by my own. Encouraged by my friend and love guru Nina, I put my romance goals on paper before I re-entered the dark waters of the dating pool. A little of my list made its way on to Martha’s but exactly what, I’ll never tell.

2. The story is set in Brighton, a beautiful place to fall in love. Also, a great place to get drunk and make a show of yourself – there’s a lot of that in there too.

3. Martha’s life becomes pretty chaotic and many of the scenes were inspired by true events. One of Martha’s mishaps is borrowed directly from my life and it was as awkward as it reads.

  4. My journey as an author began when I applied for Penguin Random House's WriteNow scheme, a process designed to promote the writing of underrepresented writers. The project created an online fracas when Lionel Shriver implied that diversity could lead to a decrease in quality – I’ll let you be the judge.

5. Martha is a mother but motherhood isn’t as dreamy as she thought it would be. It was scary to write about some of the truths of parenting.

6. The book is dedicated to my ex-husband who was super supportive about the fact that I was writing a novel about a divorce. That being said he has no plans to read it.

 7. The first item on Martha’s list is red hair and blue eyes. After finishing the novel, I met my current boyfriend, a man with red hair and blue eyes. He says he's not concerned about my life imitating art but he’s very keen to know the subject of my next novel.

8. The first version of the book didn’t include the final chapter and it’s totally cool if you want to stop there.

9.  Bestselling author Jane Fallon described the book as one of the best and funniest debuts she’s read in a long time and Sara Lawrence for the Daily Mail described it as beautifully written and emotionally intelligent.

10. The true love story is the one Martha has with her friends. Martha may be focused on finding a man but the story is a celebration of sisterhood.


If you’ve got this far and you think you might like to read Martha’s story, this is your opportunity to win a signed copy; it’s also my opportunity to spout more of my thoughts on love. To enter, leave a question about love or relationships in the comments. Two winners will be chosen in two weeks. Your question can be about breaking up or making up, dating or divorce; make it personal or philosophical – there are no rules when it comes to love.

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40 comments

  1. Honesty is always My policy - how can you get someone to open up

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  2. Relationships must have trust and communication.

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  3. Congratulations on publishing your novel. They said years ago in English class to write what you know - your work is a perfect example of that! #MMBC

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  4. Is it possible to fall in love more than once?

    #MMBC

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  5. Your book sounds wonderful. I wonder which parts are true? Do you think friendship or love should be the priority in a relationship?

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  6. They are never straightforward! Thanks for running this comp and congratulatons on your book

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  7. Congrats on the novel. Hope it does well #DramTeam

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  8. Congrats on the novel.
    How to you keep the romance alive in a relationship when you have 2 kids and little time?

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  9. How can you get your partner to communicate more?

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  10. How exciting to have a novel published, congrats! My comment on love would be that in order to feel well loved, you need to love well. #coolmumclub

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  11. Oh wow how amazing! I would LOVE to win and read a copy...everything crossed!
    Thanks for linking to #CoolMumClub

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  12. Congratulations on your novel! I'd like tips to keep your relationship alive too. #POCOLO

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  13. Good job on your novel. Well done you! #POCOLO
    Tracy www.viewfromthebeachchair.com

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  14. Congrats on getting the novel published. Very nice. #PoCoLo

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  15. I've just discovered your blog! Congrats on the release of your novel! It sounds great!

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  16. This looks like my type of book! Congratulations on your novel! For me, personally, there's a little gap in the market for something funny, charming, witty and sensitive. So I'm really looking forward to giving this a read. What exciting times. Thank you for joining us for the #DreamTeam linky - my question would be: do you really think that opposite types attract, for the long haul?

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  17. How exciting and good for you! I don't know how you found the time! #MMBC

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  18. This sounds like a great read full of emotions and down to earth truths - plenty of answers for me

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  19. Do you believe that everyone as a soulmate

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  20. How do you truly know you are with your one true love x

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  21. Congrats on the book and for sharing with #PoCoLo.

    - Do all relationships have a best before date?

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  22. Congratulations!!!! πŸ’— πŸ’— πŸ’—. Love us blind.

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  23. Congratulations on the book. Love is so much more than s*x! xx

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  24. Is anything before the relationship that brings the most love you've ever felt, real love at all? (Also congrats on the book, I've been stalking your Insta and saw it was released. If I do't win then it's going on my Christmas list,I've enjoyed your blog since I first found it. xx

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  25. Congratulations. Where is the best place to find a new partner? I'm coming up to 40 and back on the market but it's so hard to find genuine people x

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  26. Congratulations on the publication of your novel! I am extremely lucky in that my husband and I have been together for a long time, and are still soul-mates. We are still best friends, have lots of laughter, fun and the most important thing is honesty.

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  27. This sounds like a great read full of emotions and truth and hopefully plenty of answers for me and my husband πŸ˜›

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  28. Communication is key in a relationship and having interests outside of a marriage so you can come back together to discuss. Oh and an early bed time for a little one so you actually get some adult time together! :-)

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  29. Does anyone else find themselves wondering why a partner cheats and then blaming themselves? The last FOUR bf's I've had all cheated and I am now wondering if it's my fault.

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  30. How can you trust a man when you have had horrible previous relationships? (Ruth Wollerton)

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  31. Congrats! How can you tell when it's time to give up on a relationship?

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  32. Ive always said without honesty you have nothing - but sometimes you think someone is being honest with you then after years you find out you never knew them at all.

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  33. Does anyone else ever get confused at how you can see people "completely in love" like a month after breaking up with someone? Can't have been "completely in love" before?

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  34. This book looks super! I think the key to a long lasting relationship is humour and having fun (Commenting as Jacqui Rushton)

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  35. Oooh how exciting hun! Sounds like a great book - good luck with it!
    Thanks for linking to #pocolo

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  36. Wow how exciting, you wrote a book and have your name on the cover, you must feel amazing, especially to get such good reviews! A very belated #bigpinklink comment sorry!

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